How to Have Fun with Your FWB this St Valentine’s Day

February 4, 2011 flingit2

Friends With BenefitsSt Valentine’s Day is a great time to celebrate romance and passion, and you don’t need to be in a serious relationship to do just that. More and more people are getting involved in casual relationships and forming friends with benefits relationships instead of committing to just one person. Doing so is a great way to enjoy the fun of St Valentine’s Day without feeling the pressures of being in a serious committed relationship.

Casual relationships are fun and easy. There’s no seriousness involved, and each person is free to date as they please, but still enjoy the spark of a physical relationship with the person they’re in a friends with benefits relationship with. Casual friends get the best of both worlds, especially on St Valentine’s Day. Single people always feel left out on St Valentine’s Day because they don’t have someone special to spend the day with. People in committed relationships always stress out over St Valentine’s Day because there’s so much emphasis on finding the perfect gift, making dinner reservations, and otherwise having an unachievable ‘perfect’ night. Both scenarios are not enjoyable and are just all around awful.

Casual friends get to avoid all the St Valentine’s Day misery, and instead focus on the fun parts. There’s no pressure to achieve the perfect Valentine’s Day, because you’re just friends, and not in a serious relationship. Still, you do have someone to enjoy the feelings of romance and passion with, and can just have a good time spending time with that person. You can just hang out as casual friends instead of racking your brain on the perfect gift. Casual dating and forming friends with benefits relationships is a great way to ensure your St Valentine’s Day is a good one, and you will enjoy the day.

If you are beginning to explore casual relationships in preparation for St Valentine’s Day, you will want a couple ideas for things in mind to do with the person. Getting dinner is a good way to have a conversation, but all the restaurants will be packed. Consider a more unique dining method. Order a take-away and watch TV, or get ice cream together instead of a full meal. Consider doing something that you both enjoy, that doesn’t necessarily have to be a stereotypical Valentine’s Day romantic event. These ways are great ways to have fun with the person your friend with benefits relationship on St Valentine’s Day.

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Christmas Celebrations With Your FWB – Friend With Benefits

December 11, 2010 flingit2

As the holidays come around plans are made for parties, dinners, and visits with family and friends. It is a time to celebrate and bring everyone closer. Even casual relationships need that extra spice and enjoyment, and Christmas is the right time to add that extra something. With everything from mistletoe to candles, to the joy of the season, there are many ways to celebrate with casual friends.

The exchanging of gifts is a long-standing tradition at Christmas, so why not take part? Give a gift that can spice up time together, such as a nightie, silk boxers, candles, body oil, or a toy. This gift could make this holiday a sultry one. A fun and surprising idea is to be a present under the tree, perhaps wearing a festive negligee or robe, or just a well-placed bow.

At Christmas lights and decorations are everywhere giving off an ambient glow. Spend a playful evening bathed in the glow of the little lights reflecting of the ornaments. A nice bit of extra effort would be to place candles around the bedroom, scented and unscented, in the colours of the season for a festive ambient glow.

As Christmas is time for parties and dinners, a break will be needed. Casual friends can take an evening off from the hustle and bustle of visiting and parties. Stay in and have fun at home with your own feast. Bring out sensual foods such as champagne, spaghetti with oysters, and chocolate. Serve foods that can become part of playtime such as strawberries with chocolate sauce and whipped cream.

When planning a romantic and fun Christmas together, try to make it as stress-free as possible. The season is already busy with planning good cheer for loved ones from nearby and visiting. This is time for friends with benefits without having to think about gift lists, cards, and guests. Have fun and make this an intimate and personal time. Remember the mistletoe above the door!

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I’m Looking For Some Adventure

December 1, 2010 Claudia

One of our members recently sent this in…

“What’s the deal with all the rules? To be honest, I’m sick of all the rules. I just got out of a long relationship and all I really want is to keep myself happy by relieving stress in a special kind of way. If you’re on this site and reading this blog, then you know exactly what I’m talking about.

Immediately after getting out of that serious relationship, I attempted the whole dating thing. It didn’t work out for me very well. First we had to have the awkward phone conversations. Then we had to meet up and eat dinner. This isn’t so bad, but it’s where all those annoying questions are asked. I haven’t been asked that much about my past since visiting my doctor. And the eating was even awkward. It was very obvious that we were both conscious about how we were chewing. Attempting to chew and talk at the same time made for some interesting moments.

On top of that, I ordered her an expensive meal and she couldn’t have taken more than two bites. She did drink the wine, but it didn’t seem to relax her at all. She was still on the edge of her seat the entire time, so much so that her upper body was leaning toward me.

After dinner I didn’t have much interest in kissing her. She was pretty, but I didn’t care for her personality much. That didn’t stop her from going in for the kill. I wanted to pull away, but figured I’d play along. The kiss lasted longer than I expected and it felt like she was making more of an attempt at cleaning out my throat than kissing me.

Luckily, I made it through. I’m also lucky she had pretty good breath. However, she texted me 24 times the next day. I didn’t respond. The next day is was down to 18 texts. Once again, I didn’t respond. The following day was 15 texts, then 9, then 3, then 0. Wow. What an ordeal. I don’t have any interest in ordeals right now. I want to find someone who wants to have a good time – and that’s it!

I also look forward to trying new things. It seems like when you’re in a relationship there are limits to how experimental you can be in bed. I think this is because people become comfortable with certain events and don’t want anything to go wrong. These days, I’m in more of an adventurous mood.”

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The Scoop On Friends With Benefits

August 3, 2010 flingit2

Maintaining a “friends with benefits” relationship with someone can be rewarding and free of pressure. On the other hand, it can also turn into a precarious situation in which the entire friendship is at stake. Deciding to be in a “friends with benefits” relationship may seem like an easy, noncommittal venture, but it contains many subtleties that may not at first be apparent.

The most pressing issue revolves around whether each person has the same idea of the relationship. If the partners involved have not engaged in a discussion during which they explicitly state the definition of the relationship, one person may be ascribing it more importance than the other. This can lead to confusion and possibly heartbreak down the line.

Boundaries are another equally important territory to be defined. Once both parties agree that the relationship can indeed be termed “friends with benefits,” this raises the question of what other sexual activity, if any, is permitted. Are both parties allowed to see other people and engage in sexual relations with these entities? If not, is the term “friends with benefits” still applicable to the current relationship, or has it turned more serious?

One of the most difficult “friends with benefits” situations to navigate occurs when one party develops strong feelings that are not reciprocated. In this instance, it may be best to call off the “benefits” aspect of the relationship entirely until some time has passed. Hard as it may seem, it may also be wise to spend some time apart even as friends. This is because the role of the relationship is already blurred, and it may be hard for the smitten party to regard time spent together in a purely platonic light.

Reasons for “friends with benefits” vary. One or both people involved may have just gotten out of a long relationship, or for whatever reason not be prepared to commit to a serious relationship. Both parties may get along well, but feel that the other is missing something essential that is required in a full relationship. The attraction may be purely physical, or purely mental.

Finally, both partners must be prepared to cease the “benefits” aspect of the relationship when one or both of them find someone they desire to start a full relationship with. Old habits can be hard to break, so perhaps some time apart during the onset of such relationships would be a good idea as well.

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The Best Relationship You Can Have is With Yourself

August 3, 2010 flingit2

The Best Relationship You Can Have is With Yourself
By Paul Vann

While speaking to an audience I ask people to look into an imaginary mirror in the palm of their hand. Then I ask people, “Do you love what you see?”

I ask people if they love what they see because if they do not, they have some work to do. If a person looks in a mirror and love what they see, likelihood is they have a positive outlook of themselves.

The bottom line is this, the best relationship you can ever have is with yourself. Why? I will explain why the best relationship you can have is with yourself.

When we are born we do not know who we are. Our parents help us develop self esteem through love and patience. Once we come into the realization that we are individuals and have value then and only then, can we transition to become the person we want to be.

In other words, we have always and will always have a relationship with ourselves. I can remember when I was playing football, I used self talk to motivate myself to be the best football player I could be. Some of the conversations I had with myself went like this, “You are going to not miss any of your assignments on defense tonight, in fact you are going to shed all blockers and tackle the running back and or the quarterback.”

Self talk helped me become the best football player I could be and to help my team win football games. Positive self talk did not end on the football field, it transcended to the classroom. I was afraid to fail academically, thus I spent days and nights study, attending class and preparing for my exams.

The end result is I succeeded academically because I had a good relationship with myself and it resulted in me achieving professional success. I am writing this to let you know the best relationship you can ever have is with yourself. Through consistent and focused effort you can achieve anything as long as you defeat negative self talk.

How can you build strong relationships with others? Use the same positive self talk techniques you use on yourself to build stronger relationships with other people. Accentuate the positive in your interactions with others and if at times it does not seem as though relationships are working out for you and your family and friends, take another approach.

Regroup and ease into relationship building and over the course of time, things will improve. Good relationships start with self, begin your journey today.

Paul Lawrence Vann is an inspirational speaker who motivates people to achieve their greatest potential. He is author of Living on Higher Ground and is a talk radio show host. Paul is a leadership development and workplace diversity expert who assist people to maximize their human potential and improve their bottom line. http://www.paullawrencevann.com, (240) 416-5077.

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